415-854-1877 jacob.mft@gmail.com

Most people don’t come to therapy because something is “generally hard.”
They come because something keeps happening –
in their relationships, in their body, or inside themselves.
And they don’t know how to shift it.

Maybe you and your partner are stuck in the same patterns, having the same arguments, or feeling more distant than you want to be.
Maybe you notice yourself shutting down, getting overwhelmed, or pulling away – and you’re not sure why.

These patterns aren’t random. They’re meaningful. And they don’t change through insight alone.

I work with individuals and couples to understand these deeper patterns and gently turn toward the parts of themselves that have learned to disconnect, protect, or adapt. My approach is grounded in NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model), which focuses on how early relational experiences shape how we show up in connection—with ourselves and with others.

Therapy with me is not about fixing you.
It’s about creating the safety and curiosity needed to stay present with what’s difficult – so something new can emerge.

    I specialize in working with:

    • Couples who feel stuck in repeating cycles or disconnection
    • Individuals struggling with anxiety, shutdown, or self-criticism
    • Trauma and developmental patterns that impact relationships
    • Intimacy, sexuality, and open relationship dynamics

    Reaching out can feel vulnerable. But the impulse to seek support is a healthy one.
    You don’t have to navigate this alone.

    I hold a California Marriage and Family Therapy license, MFC 50229

    When we are listened to, we learn to listen to ourselves.

     

    When we are felt by another, we learn to recognize and value our own feelings.