Most couples come in because they feel stuck in patterns they don’t know how to change.
The same argument. The same distance.
One person pushes, the other pulls away.
Or both of you feel alone, even when you’re together.
Over time, it can start to feel stuck – and personal.
But these patterns aren’t random.
And they don’t tend to change just by trying harder or communicating better.
What we do
In our work together, we focus on the deeper patterns driving these cycles.
Not just what you’re arguing about – but how you’re relating underneath it.
I draw from NARM, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy to help you:
- Understand the cycle you’re caught in
- Stay more present when things get charged
- Express what’s actually happening inside, not just the reactive layer
- Rebuild trust, connection, and emotional safety
This isn’t about taking sides or assigning blame.
It’s about helping both of you see – and shift – the pattern you’re co-creating.
What this can change
Couples who do this work often find that:
- Conflicts become less repetitive and more workable
- There’s more room for honesty without escalation
- Emotional and physical intimacy can return
- You feel like you’re on the same team again
And sometimes, beyond resolving immediate issues, something deeper opens—a sense of connection, freedom, and mutual respect that wasn’t there before.
Areas I work with
- Repeating conflict and communication breakdown
- Affairs, breaches of trust, and repair
- Emotional disconnection or loss of intimacy
- Sex and desire differences
- Parenting stress and family dynamics
- Open relationships, non-monogamy, and polyamory
My approach
Couples therapy is my primary focus and ongoing area of training.
I’ve completed advanced training in:
- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
- The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy
- NARM (including assisting in master-level trainings)
- Relational Life Therapy (Terry Real)
This allows me to work at a deeper level than just communication strategies – helping you shift the patterns that keep repeating.
A note on fit
Reaching out for couples therapy can feel vulnerable, especially if things have been difficult for a while.
If both of you are willing to look honestly at what’s happening—and stay engaged in the process—meaningful change is possible.
Call today for your free consultation to begin the path toward a better relationship.
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